I remember when I was younger and I used to want it all. I wanted the guy who was right for me and the guy who gave me butterflies. I wanted the good man who treated me nicely, but the one who challenged me. I wanted the one who supported me, but let me be independent. I wanted the guy who would be my shoulder to cry on, but who wasn’t too soft that he was afraid to bring something controversial to the table. I wanted someone to take care of, but who would take care of me, too.
A lot of people used to tell me that I was too picky, that I was too much of an idealist who would never be happy and never find a guy to live up to my unrealistic high standards. Sometimes I believed them, and I tried dating around, even if guys weren’t exactly who I wanted. Ultimately, though, I realized that I was always much happier single than attached. I felt like that spoke volumes. I would much rather be alone than be with someone who didn’t contribute to my happiness. So I continued to listen to the “you’re too picky” comments and the naysayers, but I never gave up on finding the right guy. And you know what? I did find him.
Nick and I have been together for a year and eight months now. We’ll be married in just about six months. I can honestly admit that he’s not perfect, but I can admit that I’m not either. But with Nick, I don’t feel as if I have to be perfect to be loved. In fact, sometimes it’s when I’m feeling my least perfect that I end up feeling the most loved. (Go figure that one out.)
I still get butterflies when I hear his car pull into the driveway. I still wake up easier when I feel him breathing next to me in our bed. I know that even if we disagree on something or if I’m in a bad mood or if he’s stressed out from work, we still love each other and we can lean on each other through anything. It’s an amazing feeling.
I think that no matter what you set your mind to, you can achieve. You don’t have to settle. You don’t have to stop believing (seriously, just listen to Journey on that one!). You can have it all – I suppose it just depends on what you believe “having it all” means!
Questions to Consider:
- Has someone ever told you something was impossible, but you have continued believing in it regardless?
- What desires did you have when you were younger than you have been able to realize through strong beliefs and perseverance?